Author Archives: Larry Stallman

Grownups Being Babies

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”—Victor Frankl Choice evolves in a context of opportunity, maturity, and experience. In crafting our … Continue reading

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Beware of The Witching Hour

Carol came home from work at her part-time job at 6:30. She had had a bad day: unreasonable deadline, a heated argument with a co-worker, and then a dead car battery and a half hour wait for AAA. She was … Continue reading

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Valentines Day: Yet Another Day Of The Year to Act With Love

Here’s to a Happy Valentines Day! For a surprising history of this day of love click here. But what do we moderns do with a day like this? I guess it’s easy to get cynical about the $18.5 billion that … Continue reading

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Manipulation: Good For Puppets, Bad For Couples

Of course I don’t do it; and I know YOU don’t do it; but SOME people, actually employ manipulative strategies in an effort to get what they want in their relationships. Can you imagine? Punch: Oh deary me, deary deary … Continue reading

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On Resolving Differences

The challenges offered in the course of living a shared life are ceaseless. They begin when two people accept the task of occupying the same space in the universe and commit to an interdependent collaboration in the creation of a … Continue reading

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Arguments

Often, when clients enter my office, they will report, “We argued a lot this week;” or “We didn’t argue much this week;” as though that reflects a measure of their progress or the status of their relationship. They’re often confused … Continue reading

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Marital Values

The Marital Arts reflect a set of attitudes, values, intentions and skills that contribute to the lifelong process of creation and re-creation that is a committed relationship. The Marital Artist is a person who dedicates him- or herself to the … Continue reading

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Marriage Offers a Transcendent Opportunity

A marital relationship with the right person at the right time can provide a transcendent opportunity; an opportunity that offers an alternative to the somnambulant march through a life shaped by the accidents of our birth. The accidents of birth … Continue reading

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Marriage in Context

Our impulse to bond is such a primitive, complex and essential force, that cultures throughout the world have deemed it necessary to provide oversight through ritual and rite. Where this occurs, individuals, for better or worse, inherit a whole set … Continue reading

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Marriage. What’s the Point?

What is the point? Why do any of us do this “marriage” thing? Many of us don’t. For many the institution of marriage seems archaic (who wants to live in an institution anyway, har, har).  We can certainly do most … Continue reading

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